5 Realistic Self-love Habits

                      “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line.”

 You may have come across certain people in your life who are fullest with their positive energies. You may admire their self-esteem and wonder what makes such people untiring, motivated & dedicated to achieve what they desire.  So the key here is their realistic self-love habits.

Last month, I got an opportunity to conduct a survey of Top 10 happiest people belonging to different communities and companies in UAE. While drafting the survey report, I found out their 5 realistic self-love practices that made them heroes from zeros.

Positive Affirmations:

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Affirmations strengths us accomplish an action that we desire to manifest.  It is the most effective way to rewire our brains with positive energies.  For example, If you wake up early in the morning and look yourself in the mirror and utter that I am brave and stand up for myself or I have the qualities to get this job done or My business is growing and just a little effort is needed.  Such positive affirmations can be utilised to restructure the dynamics of our brain so that we truly accomplish what we desire.

Believing In Yourself & Stop comparing with others:

Self-doubt is a condition of your mind when you start questioning about your own abilities. You might come across a failure in your life that cripples you from inside.  For some people, comparing themselves with others often leads to increased complexity in their lives. It is a great setback that dissolves one’s personality to a greater extent. Believe in your capabilities rather than idealising others for their successes. You should only select role models to learn from their success qualities but don’t indulge too much in their life; it could negatively ruin your own personality.

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Although it might not be an easy task to find humour in smaller things but you can still laugh at your silly mistakes & crack a joke about it with your friends. This small effort will redevelop your attitude & you will face the challenges with a good behaviour.

Surround yourself with Positive people:

It’s always a great feeling to surround yourself with positive people. These people can truly help in transforming your personality & uplifting your character with positivity.

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Lastly, it is important to develop a strong bonding with the universe to understand the purpose of coming into the world.

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Effect of Emotional Suppression on Children

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“Not in front of the children” – how many times have you heard this phrase being said in movies, in shows, in your own house? As parents and caretakers, we’ve been taught to suppress negative emotions in front of our children. We’ve been told that the virgin mind of a child is highly fragile and vulnerable to negative emotions. While there is some amount of truth in this, it’s equally possible that this emotional suppression is furthering their vulnerability.

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Latest studies suggest that emotional suppression on a child only creates confusion and a sense of self-doubt in children. Since a child is able to pick on emotional cues easily, suppressing them with something altogether different only creates emotional conflict in a child. This results in an unhealthy mental status that could affect the personality of a child.

So what’s the best parenting option in this case? Let them know of the entire trajectory.

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Instead of completely suppressing negative emotions, it’s a good idea to let them see how the conflict pans out – from the beginning to the resolution. This will not only be a good learning experience for them but also improve their mental health and well-being. It’s important to recognize your children as people who can understand your emotions; rather than hiding the truth, it’s healthy to be straight forward about it.

Are Dolphins as smart as they seem?

You’ve probably seen these friendly sea creatures at a show and wondered how on earth they performed with such precision. The truth is that dolphins are pretty smart. We’re talking smarter than dogs and even monkeys, some sources state. In fact, studies on the dolphin brain have found it to be in the same size proportion as in a human.

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There’s no way to accurately calibrate their intelligence but some studies give evidence of their remarkable brains. If you’ve ever observed these sea animal closely you’d know that they always work in a precise, planned manner. When hunting, dolphins will form groups or squads and plan a thought-out hunt on their prey.

What’s even more intriguing is the fact that they are able to communicate not only within their own species but they have also demonstrated the ability to understand human language. Easily trained and quick to pick on stunts, dolphins have always enjoyed the limelight of entertainment in animal shows.

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What’s more, dolphins are one of the few animal species that have successfully passed the mirror test. This test gives proof that dolphins are able to appreciate themselves and recognize themselves in a mirror.

The dolphin brain has startled scientists for years; through the period of evolution these friendly aquatic species their intelligence will only grow and wow us even more.

Have you ever wondered what would happen if we suddenly lost the moon?

Sometimes, I just want to sit outside and look at the moon.

It’s mesmerising.

The moon is a vision at night – there’s no doubt about it.

But have you ever thought that there is more to it than just providing romantic views at night?

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My 6 year old was curious enough to ask and I thought to myself that I did read something about it in school but my mommy brain could not remember!

And so I started reading and remembered that the moon controls the tides of the ocean. There’s more to the moon than just that though and the haunting effects of losing it can only be fully appreciated if we dig deeper into what the moon does for planet Earth.

And then that little monster came up with another question?

What if the moon suddenly blew up?

This time i was well prepared. So I told her that the tides would go low and the oceans would become calm. While this might apparently seem like a benefit, it will drastically affect the mobility and transportation of aquatic life. This would lead to the inevitable extinction of thousands of underwater species.

But that’s not all! If the moon no longer stayed with us we’d become much less stable. The Earth-Moon mass system keeps the Earth stabilized in its orbit. Without the moon we’d lose this balance – the Earth would wobble more and the changing seasons will be thrown into turmoil.

We’re not done yet. Let’s not forget the craters on the moon – where did they come from, you ask? These craters result from the meteorites that directly hit the moon, protecting the Earth; without it, these meteorites would shower on our planet destroying life and becoming a frightening natural disaster.

So, the next time you gaze at the full moon with awe, remember that there’s more to it than just its striking beauty.

Recent must watch Pakistani drama serial

If you have already seen all the Recommended pakistani drama serials, then please do read on as several drama serials have aired since then which are definitely worth watching.

Here is a list of dramas that you should binge watch over next weekend.

1.  Darr si jaati hai sila: Written by Bee Gul and starring Yumna Zaidi alongside Nauman Ijaz and Saman Ansari, Dar si jaati hai sila is a must watch. It’s a story of a girl who lives in constant fear even in her own house. It’s very well written, the dialogues are crisp, very well directed, not stretched and each and every actor has done comcompl justice to their role. Just a note of caution: it can get very emotional towards the end, keep that hanky handy.

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2. Sang e Mar Mar: As a ruler I do start watching every Nauman Ijaz drama serial even if it does not look too good from the promos. This was exactly the case with Sang e mar mar as well. I was not too keen on it but decided to give it a chance for Saniya Saeed and Nauman Ijaz. Written by Mustafa Afridi and directed by Saife Hasan, Sang e Mar Mar is the story of a pashtun family headed by the strict patriarch Gulistan Khan, played to perfection by Naunan Ijaz. It talks about outdated customs and traditions that make life almoal too difficult to live. Strong performances by actors like Nauman Ijaz, Saniya Saeed and the extremely talented Paras Masroor, with a gripping story, breathtakingly beautiful locations and strong direction makes it a must watch

3. Yakeen ka safar: Oh, where do I start from? Yakeen ka safar is based on a short novel called ‘Woh Yakeen ka Naya Safar’ written by Farhat Ishtiaq. I started watching it mainly because i enjoyed readrea the novel. It’s a story of a girl who loses pretty much everything because her family does not trust her and then how she works hard to be independent and during her journey finds people struggling in their lives but not giving up. Although I knew Sajal Ali would be great as Zobia but it was Ahad Reza Mir who shined as Dr Asfandyar. If you still have not seen it, then you must make some time for it over the weekend.

4. Shayad: Have I ever mentioned that I absolutely love Nauman Ijaz? I thith I have. A d now that we have this out of the way, let me inform you that this is another drama serial with outstanding performance by Nauman Ijaz. Based on a novel of the same name written by Faiza Iftikhar is about the relationship between Saad and Hani and the ties that bind them together. The sets and editing are perfect and it’s production quality is slick. Sadia Khan looks beautiful as Hani but it’s Uzair Jaswal as Saad who really steals the show. If you are a fan of romance, this is a must watch.

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5. Aangan (ARY): Aangan started a revolrevol of sorts in Pakistani drama industry. It’s the kind of serial that although highlights a lot of social issues and gives their solutions as well, it never gets preachy and never awkward. It’s the story of a family and must be watched with your family. It talks about how families support each other, forgive mistakes and move on in life together. The best part about it is that each and every character is given equal importance and attention which makes it very easy to understand why a particular character behaves the way they do. This is rather rare in Pakistani drama serials. With great performances from industry stalwarts like Qavi Khan and Samina Ahmed to some newcomers whose names even I am not aware of, Aangan is a treat to watch. Highly recommended!

6. Akhri station: This is a 7 part mini series prodprod by Kashaf Foundation. Just like their earlier productions, namely Udaari and Rehai, Akhri Station shows reality in a brutal and raw manner. It speaks the truth, without sugar coating it. If you suffer from depression or anxiety, i will suggest not to watch this show. It’s awesome script, impact full use of imagery along with power-packed performances and great direction by Sarmad Khoosat make it a must watch.

7. Khudgharz: Although Sami Khan is an extremely good actor, unfortunately got type casted for several years and didn’t do any noteworthy project for several years. Things have changed now and he is doing some wonderful work. Khudgharz is definitely one of those drama serials where you can see him portraying an extremely complicated role effortlessly. Along with him Amina Sheikh and Syed Jibran were absolute stars of the show. The show was directed by Yair Nawaz and he proved he is an ace director. Also, if you are planning to watch it, keep a tissue box with you. You can thank me later.

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8. Lashkara: Set in interior Lahore, Lashkara is the story of one acid attack survivor. Written by Zafar Mairaj and directed by Kashif Nisar, it starts off as a fun, light hearted love triangle of sorts but it actually deals with a huge social dilemma. Imran Ashraf, Ushna Shah and Mohsin Abbas Haider make it an absolute treat to watch with their great performances.

9. Muqabil: Another Mohsin Abbas Haider starrer, Muqabil is an essential watch. Written by Zafar Mairaj and directed by Hasan Ali, Muqabil is the story of a rape survivor, played well by Kubra Khan and supported by Mohsin Abbas Haider as her husband and veterave like Asif Reza Mir and Saba Hameed.

10. Nazar e bad: Although the name of the show probably should have been Kaala Jaadu, Nazar e bad is a very well made drama serial.  Starring Azfar Rehman in a negative role along with the very beautiful Sarah Khan and immensely talented sakina sammo, Nazar e bad is the story about love, jealousy and the desire to have things your own way. Just a littli warning, while it does not get scary, it does become a little creepy and you might not want to watch it alone

 

 

Have you ever wondered why we dress the way we do? There is a psychological reason for that

Every person wants to inspire others with their wardrobe choices and now the fashion psychology has gone beyond the sense of clothes. Nobody among us truly understands the psychology of how people think or interpret about our fashion choices but nowadays fashion also includes lavish homes, car styling and even the food we eat. People boost about their wealth indirectly via social media postings. But I personally think that; All that glitters is not gold.

The question arises, what is the real social psychology behind fashion? Why do we want to impress others by continually updating our fashion with something new and unique? Is it because you become tired of old things or is it because of the people or society you live with?

I bet you will never post your picture on Facebook or Instagram in the same dress again, But why? The answer here is that our fashion is now more or less adopted solely for signalling social position and not for its usefulness. We always feel a sense of excitement when we work on self-reinvention; it might include changing the furniture of our homes or adding a trendy item in our wardrobe. This adds an extra pressure on our peers to remain current and updated despite of any financial condition.

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“Trends chasing is often motivated from a desire to fit in, feel current, and masks insecurities” By Jill Marinelli

Besides social pressure, the other thing that impacts fashion is the use of sophisticated technology. The 3D or digital technology has revolutionised the patterns of our dresses and even our homes. I would obviously try to adopt a better fashion than my peers and would love to get praised from my friends about my choices.

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So, it is evident that social psychology behind fashion is not entirely dependent on our personal choices rather it depends on signalling our social position. But on the other hand, there are some exceptions behind our fashion choices like religion, culture and moralities. The impact of these will be covered in our upcoming posts!

 

How Learning Languages Can Help the Brain?

Learning a foreign language doesn’t always have to be a necessity or something that you must do to make your portfolio shine. Many people enjoy the art of becoming multilingual just because they can. This educational passion not only can be pretty useful, but it’s also a good booster for your brain. Not sure how? Let me break it down for you.

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Experts have studied that adults who are bilingual or learning a new language have higher than average intelligence levels, better cognitive functions, and a sharper memory. These might seem like pretty obvious benefits of learning a new language but it can also affect your mental health at a deeper level.

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Take for example debilitating diseases like Alzheimer’s. Research has shown that people who invest their time in learning a foreign language have a decreased risk of dementia or Alzheimer’s. Brain scans of bilinguals have also shown enhanced and larger language centers in the hippocampus of the brain that is responsible for memory building and storage.
There is a substantial amount of evidence on how learning a new language can improve your mental flexibility and the overall functioning of your brain. So if you were considering learning a new language, that’s enough motivation for you to start right now!