For Men to Read and Follow

Got this forwarding today in my inbox….couldnt help sharing it with everyone

1. Dress up for your wife, look clean and smell good. When was the last time us men went shopping for designer pyjamas? Just like the husband wants his wife to look nice for him, she also wants her husband to dress up for her too. Remember that Rasulullah -sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – would always start with Miswak when returning home and always loved the sweetest smells.

2. Use the cutest names for your wife. Rasul Allah-sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – had nicknames for his wives, ones that they loved. Call your wife by the most beloved names to her, and avoid using names that hurt their feelings.

3. Don’t treat her like a fly. We never think about a fly in our daily lives until it ‘bugs’ us. Similarly, a wife will do well all day – which brings no attention from the husband until she does something to ‘bug’ him. Don’t treat her like this; recognize all the good that she does and focus on that.

4. If you see wrong from your wife, try being silent and do not comment! This is one of the ways Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – used when he would see something inappropriate from his wives – radi Allahu ‘anhunn. It’s a technique that few Muslim men have mastered. He would gently advise them to correct their ways.

5. Smile at your wife whenever you see her and embrace her often. Smiling is Sadaqah and your wife is not exempt from the Muslim Ummah. Imagine life with her constantly seeing you smiling. Remember also those Ahadith when Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – would kiss his wife before leaving for Salah, even if he was fasting.

6. Thank her for all that she does for you. Then thank her again! Take for example a dinner at your house. She makes the food, cleans the home, and a dozen other tasks to prepare. And sometimes the only acknowledgement she receives is that there needed to be more salt in the soup. Don’t let that be; thank her!

7. Ask her to write down the last ten things you did for her that made her happy. Then go and do them again. It may be hard to recognize what gives your wife pleasure. You don’t have to play a guessing game, ask her and work on repeating those times in your life.

8. Don’t belittle her desires. Comfort her. Sometimes the men may look down upon the requests of their wives. Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam set the example for us in an incident when Safiyyah – radi Allahu ‘anha – was crying because, as she said, he had put her on a slow camel. He wiped her tears, comforted her, and brought her the camel.

9. Be humorous and Play games with your wife. Look at how Rasul Allah – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam – would race his wife Aisha – radi Allahu ‘anha – in the desert. When was the last time we did something like that?

10. Always remember the words of Allah’s Messenger – sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam: ‘The best of you are those who treat their families the best. And I am the best amongst you to my family.’ Try to be the best! Never forget to make Dua to Allah azza wa jall to make your marriage successful. And Allah ta’ala knows best !!.

The Messenger of Allah, Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wa-allehe wa-sallam) said ‘Pass on knowledge from me even if it is only one verse’.


Another gift from the other side of the border

Remember how Indians reciprocated our ‘goodwill gesture’ of releasing one of their spies, Kashmir Singh, by sending in the dead body of a Pakistani cricket fan labelled as terrorist. We just cant thank Ansar Burney enough to be so understanding and helpful in paving ways or more CBMs between the countries.

Today, Indians are sending us another gift at a time when Mr Burney is trying to deter the death penalty of an Indian terrorist, Sarbajeet Singh, held in a Pakistani jail. Well yes, you have guessed it right. It’s another dead bidy and this time it is of a journalist.

Will you please stop torturing us in the name of community service Mr Burney?

Enlightened Moderation

All the frequently visitors to this blog know that I do not consider Musharraf as a complete villain. Of course he has made some huge blunders but so have the other self proclaimed messiahs. I am sure he coined the above mentioned term with utmost sincerity and he was unaware that it would actually lead to what is now happening in the Land of Pure (Examples: here, here, here and here).

I myself work at a University and although I am the youngest faculty member, I can see the vast difference between how we behaved at University and how the students these days behave. The clothes are getting skimpier and public display of affection is quite acceptable. (The worst is that people have even forgotten that the libraries need to be respected) I went to the UK for my Masters but I did not feel the culture shock there as much as I felt when I came back here to Pakistan. A lot is being done in the name of modernity and people who do not stay with time are shunned, called narrow minded, conservative freaks who are potentially a danger to the society. I have been called a ‘mullani’ for the way I dress up (I wear a headscarf) and the way I speak. I know a lot of people think of me as just another ‘wannabe’ threat 😉 but is this really we should be heading towards?

A big blow to MQM..or Karachi?

“On April 24, the Sindh government in the person of local government minister Agha Siraj Durrani, whose propensities are well known and recorded, decided arbitrarily to put aside city nazim Mustafa Kamal as the authority for the Karachi Building Control Authority (KBCA) and as chairman of the Karachi Water and Sewerage Board (KWSB) and install himself. This city of over 16 million inhabitants is once again at the mercy of newly installed powers that are in a hurry to amass a return on their investments as elected representatives of the people.

Now, by a stroke of a pen, former favourite minister Agha Siraj Durrani, now once again a Sindh government minister, whose propensities are well known and recorded, in his finite wisdom has decided that the functions of town planning and building control as well as water and sewerage should be taken away from the CDGK. By an undemocratic stroke of a pen, a notification has been issued appointing himself as head honcho of the KBCA and KWSB. The city deserves to be run by its citizens through its local government, not through bureaucrats and ministers who either disregard or change laws at their whim and fancy.

The city nazim, Mustafa Kamal, subsequently on April 25 has asserted his legal right to control the city through the provisions of the prevailing SLGO, 2001. He is within the law; he rightfully does not wish the KBCA and KWSB to be kidnapped. He is hardworking and he is apparently honest. We should support him.”


Pakistan vs Commonwealth

I was just going through the BBC’s Have your Say section which talks about Pakistan’s membership of the Commonwealth. Its quite interesting to note that most of the people who have commented are not rally a fan of the commonwealth. One comment that I particularly liked is by someone called Vijay. Here it is: The Commonwealth is a “dead” institution, and no one really gives a hoot about their opinion. If I were the Pakistani leadership, I would wait till I was readmitted and then promptly decline the invitation. Hmmm, interesting aint it? As for others, many have pointed out that because the ‘real’ constituition of Pakistan (the much talked about 1973 one that was formulated by Bhutto) has not yet been restored, it still does not deserve to be a part of the Commonwealth.

As for me, I dont care about the Commonwealthg at all. In fact I am happier this way. Atleast, we dont have to reminded every now and then that we were once ruled by the British! What are the benifits anyway? None!



Water Bridge in Germany…. What a feat! Six years, 500 million euros, 918 meters long…….now this is engineering!
This is a channel-bridge over the River Elbe and joins the former East and West Germany , as part of the unification project. It is located in the city of Magdeburg, near Berlin. The photo was taken on the day of inauguration. To those who appreciate engineering projects, here’s a puzzle for you armchair engineers and physicists.
Did that bridge have to be designed to withstand the additional weight of ship and barge traffic, or just the weight of the water?




Scroll down to check if your answer is correct?





It only needs to be designed to withstand the weight of the water!
Why? A ship always displaces an amount of water that weighs the same as the ship, regardless of how heavily a ship may be loaded. Remember your high school physics, and the fly in an enclosed bottle project??? Similarly, the super sensitive scale proved that it didn’t make any difference whether the fly was sitting on the bottom, walking up the side, or flying around. The bottle, air, and fly were a single unit of mass and always weighed the same.