Contrary to popular belief, Islam is the most feminist religion/systems of all. Dont believe me? Read on!
Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means. [4:34]
No matter how much husbands think they are favoring their wives by going out, sweating out to earn bread for the family, it is in fact one of their religious duties. Since it is an obligation, men have to provide for all the necessities of their wives whether they like it or not and can never ever think of it as a favor to their wives because thats how Allah has devised the system. In return, women are only supposed to stay loyal to their husbands and obey them in things which are not contrary to Islam. If a woman has her own financial income, she has no responsibilities to fulfill, at least not islamically. She is allowed to keep all to herself or spend it the way she wants to without worrying about anything. She might decide to help, but her husband cannot force her to do so.
We have all grown up seeing our moms spend hours in the kitchen and many of those who have been brought up in the West might even have seen our moms scrubbing toilet floors. It is inculcated in us that its a woman’s duty to do all that. Interestingly, while on the one hand, men are supposed to earn bread for the family, there is not a single ayah or hadith which I have been able to find that makes it compulsory for women to do any of the household chores! Women can actually not do any of the household chores and still not be answerable to Allah (SWT). If women do any of it, they do it out of love for their husbands and children and to help their husbands save a few extra pennies. There is no law (religious or secular) that coerces them to make dinner and then not be appreciated for it. Now if you are a married guy and ur wife attempted to make gulab jamuns for you which tasted more like kacha milk powder, get up and kiss your wife’s forehead and appreciate her for at least making an effort cuz she was not supposed to do that, she just did that out of love for you 🙂