As time is progressing, pakistani weddings have become bigger and larger. Now people want designer wear and creative dance floors only to have a wedding that not only the guests will remember for a long time but will also look better than any other on Instagram and Pinterest. But with pomp and aplomb comes a heavy price that young, newly married couples can hardly afford. Here is a list of 10 trendy items that you can have for your wedding which will not cost you an arm.
1. Customised mehndi/mayon jewellery
2. Customised paranda to go with your mehndi/mayon jewellery
3. Little matki- can be used to keep ubtan or just as a little prop to spice up the decor
4. Customised diyas
5. Mehndi Thaal
6. Potli Pouches
7. Nikah pen and rasam key pattey
8. Doodh pilai rasam glass
9. Arsi mushaf mirror
10. Gift boxes and baskets
Please note this is not a sponsored post but a recommendation.
All the pictures used in this post are provided by Huma Ashraf. She is a crafter who has turned her passion into her very successful business venture. She is a single mother of a young girl and with her hard work has become a source of inspiration for a lot of other girls around her. She can be contacted via her Facebook page.
Please note this is not a sponsored post.
While Eidi envelopes will never go out of fashion, gift baskets have become a trend over the years as well. Gift baskets are a blessing for a person like me who can take hours and hours to think of a gift and still not be happy with it.
The best thing about gift baskets is that you can tailor your basket to the theme, person or type of event.
This Eid you can give a customised Eid basket to your loved ones and there are so many reasons for it:
- They are quick, easy and low cost.
- They can contain the kind of quality of products that fits your budget.
- They are fun to open.
- Can be personalised for the recipient so you always know that your gift will not go in waste.
- Usually include products that can be consumed easily and can have both edible and non edible items.
The pictures have been graciously provided to us by Zara Hayat. She specialises in customised gift baskets for all occasions. I have personally used her services. She listens to the client, is quick with her response and her finished product is of high quality. She can be contacted via her Facebook page.
As we approach the end of Ramadan and still try to guess when exactly Eid is, let’s try and make this Eid beautiful not only for ourselves but also for others around us by knowing what not to say.
None of us mean to say the wrong thing but sometimes we just do especially when we meet our extended family after several months. Sometimes we meet new faces as families expand, or even unexpected guests. Now that I am older, I also see myself sometimes passing the irritating comment, ‘Arey masha allah tum kitney Barry ho gaye.’ It happens to everyone. We often end up asking questions that seem entirely innocent to us but can hurt and/or irritate the other person emotionally.
In the list below I share some of the questions that are not as polite as we might think they are.
What not to ask people this Eid ul Fitr or any other party?
- Do not ask anyone when they are getting married. People might be looking aggressively for an appropriate rishta and sometimes finding a suitable rishta is not easy. And no, it’s not suitable to tell them about certain single women who you think might be extremely lonely. There is no point in showing the grim side of not being married. Sometimes, they do not want to get married any time soon and they have other plans. At times it gets so infuriating that many young adults do not want to join their family during ‘House hopping’.
- Do not ask others when they might be having kids. Infertility issues, miscarriages or sometimes just not planning a child might be the reason for a couple not having a child. Other people reproductive health and decisions are none of your business. You don’t know who is dealing with infertility or grieving miscarriages or struggling with health issues. You don’t know who is having relationship issues or who might not be in a position to have their ‘next’ child straight away. You don’t know your seemingly innocent question might cause some people grief, pain or stress. This is one question you must stay away from.
- Do not comment on anyone’s weight. You can simply say, ‘It’s so good to see you.’ We will surely meet someone who might lost a bit too much weight or someone who has drastically gained a lot of weight. Weight is sometimes not just about being lazy or over indulgence. Whether you believe it or not, it’s not necessary at all to tell someone about how bad they look due to their weight. They probably do have mirrors at home and know exactly how they look. Their weight is their business. Some people are confident and secure in whatever their weight may be. Some people are struggling. So it’s best to avoid any conversation that revolves around weight.
- If you meet a young child, do not ask them who their favourite family member is or who they love most. Love is a huge word and it’s meaning can’t possibly be understood by a young child. Also do not force them to eat something. Nut/gluten allergies are more common than you might think so let the parents choose what they want their kids to eat.
- This one is also a basic etiquette that you must have when meeting a young child. Do not say, ‘hug/kiss me and I will give you a treat.’ Please do not invade a child’s private space. They are still learning about trust and do not tell the child that its alright to bribe for certain ‘favours’
So yea, that’s about it. Sometimes empathy is more important than anything else. And the best thing about it is that it doesn’t cost anything.
I recently watched a TV show called ‘The Good Doctor’ – a story of an autistic medical resident with supernormal intelligence. The show highlighted the challenges and prejudices the young doctor had to face in his field because of his conditions. Lucky for him, his genius mind made things easier for him.
The truth, however, is slightly different. Not all children born with autism are so lucky.
Autism is a group of disorders that affect a child’s ability to socialize, empathize and communicate with those around him. Social, speech and behavioral problems make it difficult for autistic children to cope with the ever-changing tides of the society.
Although seldom seen (or perhaps diagnosed) in Pakistan, the condition requires attentions and knowledge to improve the child’s life. The Autism Society of Pakistan estimates a total of 350k autistic children in the country.
The important question is: is there a cure? Like most mental illnesses, there is no complete treatment for autism. However, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
With proper therapy and intervention, the burden of social challenges these children face can be minimized. It’s important to realize that treatment options for autistic children not only include their personal therapy but also the education of the people around him so that he is treated with greater kindness and understanding. A major problem autistic children face is bullying in schools which makes the disorder even more stressful.
If you know a child with autism, make sure he is brought to medical attention and not hidden away as an ‘abnormal’ child as is mostly done in the country. With therapy and the support of loved ones, autism can be less of a nightmare for both the child and his family.
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Have you ever wondered what it would feel like to one day wake up and forget the name of your cat? Memory loss or dementia with increasing age is a common condition; one that affects a good percentage of people.
But just because it’s common doesn’t mean it’s easy.
Dementia includes a set of symptoms associated the memory building, recollection and thinking process. A term familiar with dementia is the Alzheimer’s disease. Alzheimer’s is a neurological disorder that affects old people and is characterized by severe dementia. Another type of dementia called the vascular dementia occurs after an episode of a stroke.
Contrary to popular belief or what you see on TV, dementia isn’t only related to slowly deteriorating memory or forgetting the names and identities of your own children. The condition begins and progresses slowly. It affects not only the memory but also communication, judgment and your ability to focus.
The early stages of dementia are usually seen as a case of short-term memory loss that slowly progresses into a distressing long-term memory loss altogether in old age. If someone around you has been showing symptoms of declining memory, it’s important to recognize it and talk to the doctor. While dementia is not treatable in its essence, an underlying condition that might be causing the derangement of the memory building process may be corrected.
When I think about Nauman Ijaz, I still somehow think about Dasht. I was a kid at that time but I still remember the impact his role had on me even at a time when it was difficult for me to separate real and reel life of those characters and the actors playing those characters.
He has an eye for unique projects and its no wonder that soon his name got associated with the best projects. Be it Nijaat or the latest Dar Si Jaati Hai Sila, his performance is always impeccable. He has given hits after hits throughout his 3 decade long career. Whenever I watch him on screen I feel that he can’t do any better but surprisingly, he does even better in his next project. He has a flair for negative roles. You need to watch his serials like Rehai, Ullu Barai Furokht Nahi, Shayad and Dar Si Jaati Hai Sila. Among all his negative roles, he has somehow managed to transform himself with utmost ease into adorable Imran Bhatti of Jackson Heights too.
Over his 3 decade long he has won some awards too but his talent is above awards. He is so versatile that he can be nominated in any of the acting categories and still be able to stand out from all other actors nominated alongside.
Here is a list of some of my favourite drama serials that star Nauman Ijaz. I hope you will be giving them a chance too 🙂
- Mera Saeein
- Badi Aapa
- Jackson Heights
- Sang E Mar Mar
- Dar Si jati hai Sila
I might be forgetting some of his work. Please add to the list, if you think I have forgotten some of his good work.
If you’ve ever visited a hospital (and I mean really taken your time to explore it!), you’d know that the neurology ward is completely separate from the psychiatric one. They’re never adjacent; heck, they might not be in the same building even!
Two terms that are often used synonymously by many of us are psychiatric illnesses and neurological disorders. While it’s true that the crux of the two relates to the brain, they are in reality two entirely different set of disorders and diseases.
Psychiatric or mental disorders are a group of conditions that primarily affect the personality of the individual without solid diagnostic evidence. Neurologic disorders, on the other hand, often present as a physical pathology of the brain such as a tumor that can cause not only personality and psychiatric symptoms but also other related motor and sensory symptoms.
Studies have shown that psychiatric illnesses usually involve the frontal lobe of the brain as well the visual areas whereas in neurological disorders, the pathology is widespread and not limited to a specific region.
While the two conditions are easily confused and used interchangeably, recognizing what you might be suffering from is crucial for an effective recovery. Get in touch with your physician today if you experience any symptoms of a brain disorder whether psychiatric or neurological!