5 Reasons To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

The hardest lesson in your life is to learn that ONLY you can change yourself. There exist no magic to change other people’s behavior but the key lies in focusing on yourself! Once you start focusing on your faults, you may find yourself living a happier life. But how it is possible?

The Rule is simple- Step out of your comfort zone & feel the difference!

Here are the 5 reasons that will help you in saying ‘NO’ to your comfort zone:

  1. Increases Your Stamina:

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If you analyze the lives of all the successful people, you will get to know that they did the things that scared them, they chose the path that nobody ever did. They compromised their nights of sleep to achieve something bigger. As a result, a body’s stamina gradually increases & you are there to do something extraordinary.

     2. It Will Boost Your Self-confidence:

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Nobody is born with a perfect personality neither they are born with incredible self-confidence. It takes years to boost one’s confidence.  For this, one needs to open themselves for new environment by stepping out of their idle lifestyles. Once you equip yourself with knowledge, you will see a sudden rise in your confidence.

     3. Builds Your Self-Esteem:

No one  can make you feel inferior without your consent”

Self-esteem is a way to analyze that how much you appreciate and like yourself.  You may meet certain people in your life who are fullest with their positive energies.  You may admire their stamina, their emotional & physical well-being. You may wonder, what makes such people untiring, motivated & dedicated to achieving what they desire. It’s their high self-esteem that makes them unstoppable.

     4. Helps In Overcoming Your Fears:

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At times you start wondering that you are not capable enough to successfully perform your task. This condition can psychologically affect your mental & physical abilities. Do something every day that makes you happier & satisfied. This strategy will gradually overcome all fears of your life.

    5. You Achieve Your Targets:

The most amazing part that comes out by stepping out your comfort zone is that you become even more productive with little efforts. This paves way for you to achieve targets in your life.

Lastly, remember to learn from your experiences & nothing will work for you if you don’t believe in yourself!

 

 

 

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So you need to buy a gift?

If you are anything like me  you know how hard it is to find a perfect gift. It is one of the most daunting task possible. I find shopping centers hectic places, and mostly I get stressed out if and when I can’t find a nice gift. For the last few years, I have tried to give more meaningful gifts to people. It needs to be useful to the recipient and I have to be sure that it will be used by the recipient and not passed onto someone else. My pursuit for that perfect gift has led me to discover a lot of crafters who make the perfect personalised gift for any occasion.

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Although, sometimes a gift basket with generic products is enough but for people who are really close to you, adding a few personalised extras go a long way.

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In my search I came across a lovely online craft shop, La Vie En Rose.

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The best thing about La Vie En Rose is that they not only have a range of products for you to choose from, they are willing to make changes according to your needs and budget. You can also bring your own designs to the table. They have everything from couple shirts to coffee mugs and from key chains to notebooks. And they can all be customised according to your needs.

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The owner of Rose En Vie La, Rameesha, is a young entrepreneur who listens to her clients and works hard to cater to all their needs. She is extremely enthusiastic about her work and this is what she said about her work,

“I was nineteen and on my gap year. I wouldn’t say I was sad about being home but I was very uneasy and unsatisfied with how my life was.
So one day I just randomly thought about starting what I’ve been wanting to do for the longest time. Just hitting it in the air, entirely dependent on what if.
I messaged my entire friend list that if you need help finding the perfect gift, I’m the one you contact. And a minute later, I got my first order.

It’s been almost a year, my venture is still infant, growing up slowly and gradually. But I couldn’t be happier with it!

The best feeling in the world is when you put your heart and all your effort into something and the other says a few words of appreciation. It takes away all the exhaustion.”

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Please note this is not a sponsored post, instead a recommendation after great research.

Sanju

Please do note that I might be a little biased because I have always been a huge fan of Sanjay Dutt.

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I have always been a huge fan of Sanjay Dutt. For reasons unknown to me. The only reason I can think of is that all the adults in my life loved him because he was nargis’s son. I personally have never watched any of her movies but apparently she was almost like a goddess.

And then came the time when he was jailed. I still remember it was soon after the release of Khalnayak which I had on VHS and had probably seen a few hundred times. I remember how people in Pakistan simply assumed that he was targeted because his mother was a Muslim. I don’t remember if I believed that but he still remained a favourite for a long time. Still, the reason was completely unknown.

Over time, Sanjay Dutt’s life became less interesting for me. There were more important things in life to worry about and it was only the first teaser of Sanju that made me look for reasons why I might have liked him. I still like him, just not too interested anymore. He is like this giant with sad eyes and a gentle face. But that’s not enough to like him.

So I used my trusted friend, Google and found out about his first marriage, his drug addiction, how he overcame it, his daughter Trishala and how he abandoned them both while his wife was fighting for her life against cancer, how he cheated on her with Madhuri Dixit and how he almost became the biggest superstar in India and then also how he ended up in jail.

He made some awful decisions in his life. He was irresponsible. He saw what he was getting into and still stepped into it with open eyes. Without realising that his actions, no matter how respected his parents were or how successful he was as an actor, had repercussions. He failed to realise that his wrong decisions will not only affect him, they will affect everyone associated with him.

Now, I do believe that he is not a terrorist and probably he only had illegal weapons at home because someone asked him for a favor. But I do believe that he was friendly to some terrorists and paid a hefty price for it.

Now coming to the movie, it has left me completely confused. I have spent my life liking Sanjay Dutt, making up excuses for him. Now, I am not too sure how I feel about him. Sanju is a movie that tells the story from Sanjay Dutt’s perspective. From his perspective, Trishala, his daughter from his first marriage is so insignificant that she didn’t even deserve to be mentioned in an almost 3 hours long movie. Also, why is cheating on a girl friend or a wife portrayed to be so cool. 308 girlfriends…. That’s something to be proud of as per Sanjay Dutt. And his reasons for commiting all the mistakes are so weak. The reasons I made up for him were far more convincing. Also, the second half is like forcing everyone to believe that he was like a puppet who people used for their advantage and that he was only victimised due to the pressure built up on police and the courts by the irresponsible media. Really?

The movie would not have worked at all if Rajkumar Hirani was not the director or anyone other than Ranbir Kapoor was playing the protagonist. It seems Ranbir Kapoor only got into the industry for this role. He has done it so well that till the end of the movie you pretty much forget how real sanjay dutt looks like. I don’t think he will ever be able to get a role better than this one, anyway.

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If you are a Sanjay Dutt fan and got confused after watching this movie, you will probably just forgive him again for being such a jerk. Because… Well I don’t think I’ve still figured it out but our generation is probably just supposed to love him. And when you love someone, you don’t need a reason.

If you haven’t seen the movie yet and still reading despite the disclaimer, you should be watching the movie rather than wasting time here. Especially if you have kids who are already in their teens, please watch it with them. They need to know that drugs and bad company can ruin lives. And everyone is not as lucky as Sanjay Dutt that no matter what, people still shower him with so much love and affection.

Also, I don’t know why but I have a feeling that there will soon be a movie about how innocent salman khan is.

How To Recognise & Deal With Toxic Friends

The word toxic means “poisonous”, a condition that is particularly used to describe anything that causes a lot of harm & unhappiness over a longer period of time. Similarly, the term toxic friends are used to describe such friends who are not your well-wishers & at points they cripple you from inside hence putting your life on the verge of troubles.

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Here I am going to share some signs that will help you to identify your toxic friends.

How to recognize Toxic Friends?

Have you ever wondered what might be the immediate cause of your failure or a decrease in your self-confidence? Are your friends repeatedly taunting you or making fun of your abilities in front of others?

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If yes, then this is the best time to recognize your toxic friends & deal with them smartly.

  • Think about a situation in your life where your friends have conveyed such criticism to you that made you feel smaller & even embarrassed in front of others. This is the biggest sign of a toxic friend who leaves no room for your praise in crowds.
  • They play with your weak points & disclose your secrets for gaining other people’s sympathies.
  • They are self-centered and bully you repeatedly. This condition can psychologically affect your mental & physical abilities.

How to deal with Toxic friends?

Dealing with toxic friends is not as easy as you might have thought. The key rule here is to never let the negativity of your friend to enter your mind. Take their gossips and criticism lightly as their ruthless nature will never go away. Always try to keep your good news with yourself.

The next step is to find humor in smaller things when you are with your toxic friends. Although it might not be an easy task but you can still laugh at your silly mistakes & crack a joke about it with your friends. This small effort will change your attitude & you will develop the capability of facing the challenges with a good behavior.

“If they do it often, it isn’t a mistake; it’s just their behavior” By Dr.Steve

 

 

 

 

How To Reduce Screen Time For Kids

Reducing screen time has been a hot topic in this digital age, and that’s a given since other electronic items have been thrown into the mix which are easily portable and hence even more hard screen to control! We all know more screen time is bad for us and children, but how exactly are they bad? There are numerous bad habits linked to too much TV or video games.

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While some may argue that video games makes the mind more active because of its puzzles and tactics, too much of anything is very bad. For decades scientists and doctors have cautioned parents and adults alike about the harmful benefits of too much screen time. It can lead to childhood obesity, poor sleeping habits and social issues. A study done in UCLA also showed that too much screen time can effect the child’s ability to recognize emotions and other non-verbal signs.

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Now that we have established the importance of reducing screen time, how do we reduce it? Naturally parents and babysitters will face a lot of resistance and agitation from the kids due to cutting off their screen time. So how do we reduce screen time and get a happy kid in return too? Sounds impossible. Almost.

Following are some of the points to help you in your journey in reducing screen time for kids (and keep them from not chewing your head off in the process):

1. Reduce your screen time first

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As heartbreaking as it may sound, to help your kids you also have to bid farewell to your phones, tablets, computers and TV time. It’s all about setting the right example for your kids. Moreover, if too much screen time is bad for your kids, it must be bad for you too right? Adults suffering from too much screen time also face obesity and other health issues. If you’re always hooked to your gadgets, then your kids will deem it a normal occurrence and follow in your footsteps.

2. Encourage other activities

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Whenever your kids get free time always provide them with non-electronic resources to pass their time. It can be a simple house chore, or any sport, board games, puzzles, reading and arts and crafts among other things. This will keep them occupied and keep their mind sharp too.

3. Limited Screen time

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Allow screen time after the kids have done something productive. Some parents change the wifi everyday and only give the password when they’ve done something worthy. Moreover, limit their time to 30 40 minutes depending on the circumstances. Make it a routine so they stop complaining and do other activities like sports, reading, arts etc. This way they will also have a healthy balance between screen time and other activities and won’t get bored or agitated. Which is a win-win situation right?

EDIT: Have added the video too, do give it a watch.

Headless Women of Bollywood- The Final Verdict

We have discussed the liberalization of Indian cinema that introduced a headless woman to plush cinema halls. Our artists agree to choose their bodies for self-objectification even when their script doesn’t suit their egos. In our previous posts, we have given a number of examples of such movie posters that are merely designed for public’s sexual attraction.

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Although we agree that Bollywood emerged as the multiplex capital of the world with its breath-taking movies in 1990’s but gradually Bollywood turned its ship to generate revenue by self-objectifying female artists hence crippling the moralities of Indian society. Thanks to the headless moment that opened our eyes as to how women’s fragmented (hyper-sexualized) body parts are used to sell movies.

Breaking all the norms of Bollywood traditions, directors are struggling to earn as much business as possible without taking into the consideration the impact of a headless woman on the society.

Impact on Society:

The Indian society has already suffered from moral setbacks in ancient times where a woman was merely used as a sex symbol. The headless women in Bollywood movie posters have brought back the concept of objectifying a woman sexually but in a new way. What a shame it is! Have you wondered why rape cases & domestic violence are increasing day by day?

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It is understood that Bollywood movies (being the strongest communication tool for public) are not teaching our men to respect or value a woman’s character in general. The headless posters of Bollywood movies may exaggerate sexual impulses of a man to an extent that he is less likely to control his desires and rape a woman.

Concluding the series of Headless woman of Bollywood, I suggest my readers boycott such hyper-sexualized movie posters that degrade a women’s character to help bring a maximum loss for such movies. Our female artists shall also not choose to self-objectify their body parts as most of them are a role model for a society.

I will not say that a women have no character; rather, they have a new one everyday.  By Heinrich Heini 

Ti’s The Season For Weddings

As time is progressing, pakistani weddings have become bigger and larger. Now people want designer wear and creative dance floors only to have a wedding that not only the guests will remember for a long time but will also look better than any other on Instagram and Pinterest. But with pomp and aplomb comes a heavy price that young, newly married couples can hardly afford. Here is a list of 10 trendy items that you can have for your wedding which will not cost you an arm.

1. Customised mehndi/mayon jewellery

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2. Customised paranda to go with your mehndi/mayon jewellery

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3. Little matki- can be used to keep ubtan or just as a little prop to spice up the decor

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4. Customised diyas

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5. Mehndi Thaal

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6. Potli Pouches

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7. Nikah pen and rasam key pattey

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8. Doodh pilai rasam glass

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9. Arsi mushaf mirror

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10. Gift boxes and baskets

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Please note this is not a sponsored post but a recommendation.

All the pictures used in this post are provided by Huma Ashraf. She is a crafter who has turned her passion into her very successful business venture. She is a single mother of a young girl and with her hard work has become a source of inspiration for a lot of other girls around her. She can be contacted via her Facebook page.