Effect of Emotional Suppression on Children

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“Not in front of the children” – how many times have you heard this phrase being said in movies, in shows, in your own house? As parents and caretakers, we’ve been taught to suppress negative emotions in front of our children. We’ve been told that the virgin mind of a child is highly fragile and vulnerable to negative emotions. While there is some amount of truth in this, it’s equally possible that this emotional suppression is furthering their vulnerability.

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Latest studies suggest that emotional suppression on a child only creates confusion and a sense of self-doubt in children. Since a child is able to pick on emotional cues easily, suppressing them with something altogether different only creates emotional conflict in a child. This results in an unhealthy mental status that could affect the personality of a child.

So what’s the best parenting option in this case? Let them know of the entire trajectory.

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Instead of completely suppressing negative emotions, it’s a good idea to let them see how the conflict pans out – from the beginning to the resolution. This will not only be a good learning experience for them but also improve their mental health and well-being. It’s important to recognize your children as people who can understand your emotions; rather than hiding the truth, it’s healthy to be straight forward about it.

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Top 10 Must Watch Kids Movies

Television has long been a source of entertainment and a way to wile the hours away. The prime objective of TV shows and movies has always been keeping the audience’s interest. But this platform has also been a strong proponent of positive messages, good vibes and lessons to learn. You and I have grown up watching some of the most classic children films and they remain to be some of the best movies of all time.

It’s not about the jaw-dropping graphics or the melodious soundtracks; it’s about the character development, the solid plotline and a positive life lesson that makes these movies stand out from the rest. While there are many titles that fit this description, here are top 10 children movies that have outshined through decades and must be watched with your kids before they turn twelve.

#1: The Lion King

Ah, who can forget this timeless Disney classic? This isn’t only a story of courage and how to fight for your people. This is a story that teaches children how to deal with loss and of course – how to put the past behind them.

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#2: Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory

Adapted from Roald Dahl’s best-selling children’s novel, Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory is about the adventures of an unprivileged boy into a magical chocolate factory. This movie not only keeps children entertained and humming the Oompa Loompa songs for days, but it also makes them understand the importance of humility. Charlie’s patience, humbleness and kindness brought him riches in the end unlike all the other bratty kids in the movie who met a more or less dreadful end to their chocolate factory tour.

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#3: Toy Story

Toy Story has seen many different sequels but the ’95 Disney film remains to be the best still. Toy Story is a fun concept with a strong message. Woodie’s dedication to protect his friends and Buzz’s show of courage are all inspiring themes that children are sure to pick on.

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#4: Akeelah and the Bee

This relatively contemporary movie blew up the box office charts in 2016. Akeelah, a young girl with a broken household, find an opportunity to break free from her circumstances through a Spelling Bee competition. With the help of Dr. Larabee’s coaching, Akeelah learns how she can become someone she can be proud of.

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#5: Brave

As the name implies, Brave is a story about courage and strength. Forced to marry at an early age by her parents, Meredith breaks the customs of her family tradition and pursues her passion instead – archery. Brave is a story that highlights and strengthens a mother-daughter bond and teaches both children and parents to understand the other person’s point of view.

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#6: The Iron Giant

Inspired from Ted Hughe’s award-winning novel, The Iron Giant made waves back in 1999. This story about friendship and sacrifice will leave tears in your eyes but a lesson that you will remember for years to come – a perfect kids move indeed!

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#7: Matilda

Another Roald Dahl adapted movie, Matilda narrates the story of a gifted yet misunderstood girl. Her struggles against the prejudice from her family and the cruelty of her school principal are short. Matilda soon realizes she has the power to stand up to all that don’t believe in her. This strong message of self-esteem, self-love and courage is extremely essential.

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#8: E.T the Extra-Terrestrial

This heart-wrenching timeless movie remains a favorite for many adults still. When a young boy befriends a gentle alien, new bonds are made and new adventures are embarked upon. The powerful message of sticking up for your friends is both a tear-jerker and uplifting.

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#9: Charlotte’s Web

Charlotte must do everything in her power to protect her bovine friend Wilbur from getting slaughtered– even if it means constructing an elaborate spider web. Children will learn how important it is to help out those in need from this film. They will also learn the true meaning of friendship in Charlotte’s Web.

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#10: Wizard of Oz

Possibly one the most oldest and yet still one of the greatest classic children films is the Wizard of Oz. The plot follows Dorothy, a girl lost from her home because of a tornado, and her quest to return to her family. With her friends she finds embarks on the way back home but this road isn’t simple. Dorothy must act intelligently, with courage and kindness to make it through. The Wizard of Oz is truly one of the most inspiring kids’ movies of all time to date.

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What are the skills a child SHOULD be learning in school

Why do we send our children off to school? So that we can see them evolving into beautiful and independent adults. And while academics are extremely important and necessary, it is not everything. And while schools are great for this, all of them share one flaw: They are depriving children of learning basic skills!

I mean it’s great that you’re getting educated, it does help put food on the table. But what about other necessities and skills which help children to survive in this world? Not only in their youth but also as adults. I’ll be talking about what skills a child SHOULD be learning in school.

For starters, and I think we all agree on this, children should be taught on how to be socially active and confident. Educators have failed miserably in this area. We often see children shying away from public speaking. And that’s fine, they are children after all! But it’s the school’s and parent’s job to encourage them forward socially. Many children all over the world are being bullied, but they don’t know how to cope with it because they are neither aware nor do they possess the courage and confidence to stand up to their bullies. This area of skill is in dire need of attention!

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Mitochondria is the powerhouse of the cell, right? This is something which has been burned into our memory! Wouldn’t it be nice… to I don’t know learn about taxes, mortgages etc. in the same way that we were forced to learn about mitochondria? I mean, sure it’s nice, but it’s of no use to us, right?! It’s essential that the children are educated about these topics so that they understand the importance of it and hence, can function like good and responsible adults.

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Basic cooking! It’s imperative that children know the basic know-how about cooking. God forbid, they can be faced with unusual circumstances when they are alone, or their parents or babysitters can’t attend to them, they should at least know how to put together a simple meal for themselves. We wouldn’t want them to starve right?

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Another major skill children should be taught is to call the right authorities if something goes wrong. There should be enough sense instilled in them that they know what course of action to be taken in which situation. For example, alerting the fire department or calling the police depending on the situation. They should be taught how to act fast and their wits should be sharp!

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Other skills include tackling different situations, compassion, tolerance etc. It is of utmost importance that schools include activities in which a child not only excels at academics but is also given an excellent platform for learning new skills and applying them in daily life situations, in and out of schools! Naturally, we can’t give children a career to prepare for, but we can integrate skills in them which will help them adapt to different situations. They will certainly thank us for a long time to come!