Coming of age

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So here I am, celebrating my third blogoversary. As I started off from a different blog, I celebrate the day I started blogging rather than the day I started this particular blog.

Anyway, life has changed drastically for me over these past three years and so has my blogging. The reason I started blogging was not something that made me continue blogging. I have repeated quite a lot of times why I started blogging and wat kept me going initially but it changed over time. Soon it was about the number of visitors, the number of subscribers, the number of comments. I dont blog for those reasons anymore. I dont blog for stats any more or to get insane number of comments that I once used to get for the controversial posts that I started doing. I have learned to blog for myself.

But what is it that has kept me hooked to this even then. I mean being the person that I am, I tend to get bored quite easily but why am I still blogging after 3 years. A question that I asked myself today when I saw the Blogoversary badge on my other blog.

And the more I think about it, the more I get convinced that surprisingly, no matter what I might think, the reason is once again pretty much what I started blogging for. It changed in between when I got obsessed with stats. But now, I have come to the point where I started: to talk about things that matter to me, regardless of what they mean for others, regardless of how many people read it, regardless of how many people care to leave comments; I am just happy to have an outlet for my feelings to share with the small but loyal readers’ base and with complete strangers who stumble upon my blog.

At the end of the day, I guess I just want to be heard, even if it is by a small group of people and in doing that I want to be a part of the people who dare to be heard. I dont want to be a celebrity blogger, just someone with a voice.


How over rated ;)

So Mariyas, I know you tagged me ages ago, I am sorry for being soo lazy but here’s my list of 7 over rated things finally 🙂

  1. Love: I think we just care for certain people and want them to care for us in return. Yet it is interesting that love has been able to inspire poets/writers all along.
  2. Getting Married/Being in a committed relationship: Why does everyone wants everyone else to be married? I have failed to understand that. Isnt it something very very personal. But people would ever really understand? I dont think so. I just dont think that single people are losers. Its not a disease to be single, just a choice. You can be alone and yet not be lonely. On the other hand, you might be married and yet be as lonely as anyone can ever be.
  3. Angelina-Brad jodi/SRK/Atif Aslam: Oh can we talk about something else? There are ppl dying in suicide blasts and we are talking about a few ppl’s personal lives!
  4. Talk shows/Reality shows: Why are we all hooked to watching Hamid Mir making everyone ‘fight’ over issues that do not seem to have a solution? And dont we all secretly want to be superstars or else why cant we miss watching ‘So you think you can dance’ or ‘American Idol’?
  5. Gora rang: Get over it, please! We have the best complexion in the world, cherish it!! And please, if gora rang was the reason ppl got married, there wouldnt be a single person married in a lot of countries.
  6. 2012: Do I even need to comment here?
  7. Facebook/Twitter: People spend more time on these than in real life. I still dont understand why ppl have to update their fb status and all even after coming out of the loo 😛

Randomness of my life

Time to finally update the blog and wat can be better than a tag, especially one which I have churaofied from PD‘s blog 😀

Anyway, here it goes:


Once you’ve been tagged, you are supposed to write a note with 25 random things, facts, habits or goals about you. At the end, choose 25 people to be tagged. If I tagged you, its because I want to know more about you.

Now as I have not been tagged by anyone, I will not be tagging anyone either 😛

  1. No surprises here, I love to talk and I can actually talk for hours on fone.
  2. I can be a great listener, just dont ask for suggestions 😛
  3. Blogging has become an important part of my life and I often thank God that I blog.
  4. I just hate it wen ppl ask me weird questions about my hijab.
  5. Call me rigid, I love the way I am. I believe its more important to be real than to pretend to be perfect.
  6. I always wanted to be married (if I HAD to be married) to someone I would have known inside out from before….as in before considering him for marriage. Instead, I am married to someone I least expected to be married to.
  7. At times I wish I could change certain things of the past but then I realize that those are the things which define me today. No regrets Alhamdulillah.
  8. I cant stand the sight of blood.
  9. I am dreading the time wen all I’l be doing would be behaving like a doting housewife.
  10. Damn, I hate the term ‘housewife.’ Can we call that something else?
  11. I am a bad planner. Almost all my plans fail but I still love making plans 😛
  12. I hate to admit this but I cant whistle 😦
  13. I would want to remember my dreams once I wake up. I hardly ever remember any of my dreams and even if I do, they are usually outrageous.
  14. I like collecting useless information.
  15. For some reason, I have been unable to wear my emerald ring since my wedding due to ring rot. Its weird cuz I had been wearing it for years.
  16. I have always dreamed of living in a house with a huge, lush green garden.
  17. I can only sleep if its completely dark.
  18. I seriously need to start reading a book now.
  19. I am usually really good at guessing the time….the difference is usually just 2-3 minutes at max.
  20. I love food. Seriously. Dont be misled by the way I look, I have just learned to control wat I eat.
  21. I dont see things as completely black or as completely white.
  22. I am usually very curious. If I know a bit of something, I’d want to know all that I can about it.
  23. I laugh a lot and I tend to get excited quite easily.
  24. I’d rather be the driver than be the passenger.
  25. I dont really mind being in the kitchen…but that doesnt mean I am a great cook.


Now wen Safi and farooq did this post, I didnt really take it too seriously. It was fun to read and even more fun to read the comments coming on it. Initially I didnt really plan to take it as a tag…at least not to be done alone but the minerva did one herself so I thought Id give it a try too. Mine would obviously wouldnt be as descriptive as Minerva’s, Im sorry I dont write so well and I am always short of words ( 😛 ) so hopefully this should suffice. (I am only writing about ppl I consider my buddies so if you find something offensive about urself, dont expect an apology, buddies should be able to digest this. Wanted to add AD here but have known her for only a few months, so if i’l ever do a sequel of this, expect her to be in there. ):

  • Absar: Oh well, he’s one of the few guys who dont mind being called sweet. Is that enough to describe him? Ummm, I dont think so. He is one guy who u can expect do be doing tags, always in love and is sensitive enough to not only write poems and even watch (and enjoy!!) flicks from 50s. So in short, I kinda agree with Safi and farooq here 😛
  • Anas: He can surely be a lot like Absar at times…getting there but not completely there as yet 😛 I always thought guys were supposed to disorganised and lazy. This boy plans everything years in advance and is also worried about his weight.
  • PD: I just love her. She’s humble, sweet and one of the nicest ppl I have come across in my life. Sanest of us all.
  • Mahwash: Takes her life very seriously. If she’s doing something, she has to be either really good at it or she wont be doing it. She has strong opinions about stuff and is not scared of being vocal about them, thus, either makes a lot of people simply hate her or just love her for wat she is.
  • Hira: Witty and crude. She is very honest and thats the best thing about her. If she doesnt like something, she’l say it on ur face.
  • Safi and farooq: They are both crazy and pretend to be wat they are not. But they are mature, sensitive ppl. They both know wat their problems are, even know the solution to their problem but they dont really seem to be doing much to solve em. They can be a lot of fun wen u want to have fun, they can be the best listeners wen u want someone to just listen to ur crap without really judging you and can give you great advises wen u are simply looking for sincere advises.

Honest Confessions

Although I have done a post out of narcism which had so many confessions, I thought of taking up an interesting post on minerva’s blog as a tag few days back. Haris has now tagged me with something similar so I’ll just mix em both 🙂

Here’s the deal to do the Honest Tag:  tell your readers 10 things about you that they may or may not know, but are true. Tag ten people and be sure to let them know they’ve been tagged (a quick comment on their blog will do). Don’t forget to link back to the blogger who tagged you.

Confessions of a Believer

  • I was born in a family which is half strictly barehlvi, half strictly deobandi. I am trying to find where I stand.
  • Asking questions about my beliefs make me a ‘nonbeliever’ in eyes of a lot of people. People can call me anything they want to, name calling only makes me more determined to find answers to my questions.

Confessions of a blogger

  • I started blogging for myself but I soon realized that a lot of people do read what I write. It did make me omit some of the content that I would love to have here but that still doesnt change the way I see a lot of things. Just spamming a particular post with negative comments, making personal attacks on me or any other reader of mine only makes me think of that commenter/stalker/spammer as a retard.
  • I have made a rule to myself that I will only allow bloggers to leave comments on my posts…cept for a few people who have been coming to my blog for a real long time.
  • I dont consider myself a writer and perhaps thats the reason why I find it so difficult to do the write ups for anything at all.
  • I have met some really wonderful people through this blog and I am glad that I opted to blog.

Confessions of a friend

  • The word friendship doesnt mean much to me anymore. I have been stabbed in the back so many times that I dont know how I still end up trusting people; I still trust people quite easily.

Confessions of a woman living in the 21st century

  • I know my weaknesses and although I complain about them a lot, I know I can handle things a lot of the things myself.
  • I check my emails at least 20 times every day.
  • Google is my wedding planner.

If you are reading it, you are tagged 🙂


I have churaofied this tag from here cuz I found it really interesting.

Ten Things You Wish You Could Say to People, don’t take any names

1. Just stop keeping track of me you bloody stalker!!

2. Yea, I love myself, any problem?

3. Just mind your own business for a change!

4. Your girlfriend is not that naive (I know the guy I want to say this will most probably never read this!)

5. If he loves you, he should respect you and make sure that everyone else in his family respects you too.

6. Just stop judging me or anyone else! You are not better than anyone else.

7. I am worried about the way you live your life….slow down a bit.

8. Dont try to act like Mother Teressa, you are only making a fool out of urself.

9. Stop bashing your ex.

10. Stop under-estimating yourself!!

Nine things about you

1. I like to have my space.

2. I love the smell of books: new, old, photocopied, pirated…

3. I didnt know what broccoli is till I was 14, its my fav vegetable now.

4. I believe in para-normal activities.

5. I dont have a favorite color, the only color I dont like wearing is yellow.

6. I think too much.

7. I dont like girls who think they are weak and helpless.

8. I dont like winters.

9. My name is actually a word in Hebrew

Eight ways to win your heart

1. Buy me a book…simple, aint it 😉

2. Be knowledgable. Know wats happening around you, not only wats being aired on TV the whole time but also wats happening with the people who care about you.

3. Have your own opinion, dont get influenced too easily by other people’s opinions.

4. Talk to me!

5. Dont think of me as a customizable software package.

6. Do not try to be my satellite: if you want to know something, ask me. I might not remember to tell you certain things but that doesnt mean I dont deem you important enough to know them. Perhaps I didnt deem those things to be important enough.

7. Read!

8. Respect women.

Seven things that are on your mind a lot (random ordering)

1. Religion

2. Politics

3. My work…..and my research

4. Shadi prep

5. Books

6. Food

7. My family

Six things you wish you never did

1. There have been times wen I have been really nasty with my family.

2. I dont basically regret much in life. I own my mistakes….perhaps the reason why I think so much. If I do something, it is cuz of a decision which I take after a lot of consideration. If things dnt work out, I dont regret it.

Five things that turn you off

1. Smoking..biggest turn off!

2. Behaving like a demigod.

3. Being judgemental.

4. Showing off.

5. Tantrums

Four turn on’s

1. Confidence.

2. Sense of humor. Yea, I am cheap and you should be able to understand my jokes without trying to judge me.

3. Intelligence…although intelligence is just a relative term.

4. Be yourself.

Three things you want to do before you die

1. I have done a similar list here.

Two smileys that describe you

1. :S

2. 😛

One confession

1. I dont like doctors. I dont know but going to doctors is one of the most difficult things in life for me.

Phew. This was more difficult than I thought it would be and thus, I wont make anyone’s life difficult.