K will go to school

Time flies.
My little K is now a big girl. Over 3 years of age masha allah. potty trained. capable of proper conversations over manicure sessions.
and now also big enough for school alhamdulilah.
we did not look around too much for the school. all we needed was a preschool that will be good enough to prepare for a local school.
we started looking online for preschools. our criteria was simple:
1. river valley road so that pick and drop will be easy.
2. local singaporean management so that K will study in ‘local’environment rather than international so that it will be easy for her to adjust in primary school
3. fees. ofcourse.
after spending few days on phone and internet we finalized 3 preschools to visit and after visiting all 3 of them we finally chose Little Skoolhouse International for the following reasons:
1. friendly principal
2. owned by ntuc
3. fees is not too low but not too high as well
4. teachers seemed friendly and caring
5. children looked happy and well taken care of
so we are now done with registration. K’s uniform should be with us in a few days. we just need to buy a water bottle, a school bag and a small towel. and oh yea i need to order name tags.
because the countdown has begun already ๐Ÿ™‚


Free indoor playgrounds

These days i am very much interested in finding indoor activities for K and D. Singapore is very hot for most of the year and it rains a lot too so its important to find indoor activities. Also, its very expensive so these days i am trying to find ‘free’ fun activities.

This week we went to two indoor playgrounds on orchard road (which is where our serviced apartment is): Paragon and 313.

Paragon: The playground is mainly targdted towards tots and is located inside the building on level 5. This means the children can enjoy playing for as long as they want without sweating much due to air con. There is a slide and some other fun activities free of cost. There are also some paid rides that kids can enjoy. My girls absolutely loved it. Also, if you are really tired, you can sit on  a bench while watching ur kids play.

313: This playground is partially indoors as it is located on the sky terrace on level 5. There is a roof on it so im sure it saves the children from rain and direct sunlight but it tends to get very hot. There are not too many activities here but it is a good option for those parents who might be planning to dine at the Food Republic.

B for baby, B for breast…and B for bully!

if you have read my last post on breastfeeding, you already know I am a big fan of breastfeeding and it actually is one of the things that I am proud of having done and still doing as a mom. some of u may even know that I now have two girls, K and the nearly 4 month old D.

so anyway, when I got pregnant last year wid D, I was still breastfeeding K and as soon as I found out I am pregnant I started trying to wean off kinza from my breast as everyone including my gynecologist advised me to do so. I tried several times, trust me, but I failed every time. perhaps because my approach was wrong but in the end I had a unique experience of breastfeeding through out my pregnancy. ok, not so unique because I know there are thousands of other women who have done so successfully but I definitely am the only one among all the women I knlow of personally.

with this, I realized quite a lot of things abt breastfeeding and thght I shud share them wid u if u already have a nursing baby/toddler and u are planning to have a second baby:

  1. Nursing a baby/toddler is possible during pregnancy. It will not harm u or the unborn unless you have a complicated pregnancy. DO NOT let others decide wat is right for you or for your baby. You are an adult who has decided to have a baby and are responsible for your children. just do wat suits you and your family, not wat is acceptable in the society. If you wish to nurse your child while pregnant, do so…you can tell the world to f*** off.ย 
  2. Breastfeeding through the pregnancy would mean your supply of milk will drop dramatically and you will need to supplement your baby’s milk intake with formula/fresh milk; preferably the full amount required for the age so that you are sure your child is getting all the nutrients. Plus, as you will still be producing milk, you need to eat a little extra so as to ensure your unborn gets all the nutrients too. Again, the key is to eat healthy and avoid junk as much as possible .
  3. Breastfeeding might feel like a chore during pregnancy, especially in the last trimester wen you will be quite big yourself and finding the right position will be a difficult task but trust me, there will be times wen you will thank God for it as nursing your child will pretty much the only time during the day wen your child will let you put your feet up and relax.
  4. This will pretty much be the last few months that you will be spending alone with your elder one so make the most of it and wat can be better than letting your child nurse! You will miss it once it ends.
  5. ‘Dry feeding’ or nursing in the last few weeks can actually help you have a better flow of milk wen the new one comes.

But with all these advantages, comes the disadvantage that your elder one will be closer to you than ever before and this will make your elder one jealous of the younger one more especially wen he/she sees you nursing the new arrival. For me, it actually meant nursing K all over again after the birth of D. Not that I am complaining, but at times it becomes too much to handle. Plus, the older the child gets, the more difficult it gets to wean off from breast as it becomes a habit and with better memory, its not very easy to distract. So, if you wish to nurse your child through the pregnancy, you will have to be prepared for a lot of things that may actually not be very easy to handle. If you have decided to do so, good luck!

B for Baby, B for Breast


I have been wanting to do dis post for a long time, had composed it in my head several times but just didnt get to actually writing it. One reason might have beenย  the taboo attached to talking abt it publically in our society. But now that my baby has just turned one, i thought i should finally document it for many young mothers who mite b going through a lot that i went through wen K was born.
I am talking about breastfeeding. I am not being immodest by talking abt it, just want to share what i learned the hard way. And no, trust me, this is not and will never be one of the mommy blogs ๐Ÿ™‚
Before K was born, i knew i wanted to breastfeed her. After all, we have all read the slogan, “breast is the best.” But i had heard stories of this not being an easy, and for some an impossible, journey, i had bought milk bottles too. You know, just in case.
With K’s birth, the real work started. Breastfeeding does not come as naturally as people would make you believe and no matter how much you have read about it, its completely different when the baby is handed to you to feed for the first time.
Through out the year, i met with people who all thought were experts on the field. Interestingly, none of them had exclusively breastfed their babies for the first 6 months and yet they would advise me things which are completely baseless. But well, people will talk so i just had to listen to them. For guidance of new moms and moms-to-be, i have made a list of problems that you are likely to face if u decide to breastfeed.
1. I dont have enough milk (first six months): The problem is that the women who have become mothers in the past 15 years or so were all bottle fed. Their moms were made to believe that with each generation, women are getting weaker and thus cannot produce enough milk to feed their babies. This means that even if they wanted to nurse their babies, they had to supplement with formula in a bottle. The combination often confused the baby and the baby just chose one over the other. The bottle would usually win as the babies found sucking milk from bottle easier. After having a feed of formula milk, the babies would also sleep longer making the moms think that they indeed do not have enough milk. The baby sleeps longer after formula milk because the formula milk takes longer to digest and thus the baby does not get hungry as quickly as with breast milk. This made the moms feel inadequate! Now those moms have become grand moms and those partially or fully bottle fed babies have become moms. Obviously the kmowledge base had remained the same so now as mothers and mothers in law, they suggest tht all women must start supplementing with formula milk as they do not have enough milk.
Most women, less than 40, are able to provide sufficient milk for their little ones so women should keep in mind that the problem of not having milk is not as common as we think it is. Many women who think they do not have enough milk are actually engorged (have too much milk) or the baby is not latching properly. So if you are one of them, go to a lactation expert and ask whether you need a massage to help opening the blocked ducts or whether your baby is latching properly or not. If you need massage, please hire a professional or it can lead to other infections and more problems for you. I m saying this specifically because i tried to massage myself often with unwashed hands, damaged a lot of tissues and spread bacteria. I ended up getting mastitis which is a very painful disease and a huge hurdle in the path of breastfeeding.
One thing that often makes women supplement with formula milk as it makes them feel inadequate is cluster feeding. Babies have growth spurts in which they grow a lot more than normal. These growth spurts usually last 2-3 days. When the growth spurt is about to begin, the babies stary feeding a lot more than normal. They always seem hungry and feed frantically thus making the mother feel she is not being able to provide enough. This is a stage where most women supplement with formula milk and this is exactly where they go wrong. The more the baby nurses, the more milk is produced and that is why the baby cluster feeds: to help produce more milk during the gtowth spurt. Just let the baby feed and let your body do miraculous things.
2. I do not have enough milk (next six months): now that the the baby is six months, you would have started solids. The baby nurses for shorter periods of time and you are not ‘leaking’ anymore. So that must mean your supply is dropping. No, it does not mean that at all. Breastfeeding has become second to nature for you and your baby: your body now produces just the right amoint of milk and your baby has learned the art of feeding. So less leaking and quick, painless nursing sessions. Further, a lot of hunger is taken care by the newly introduced solids. And as the solids take longer to digest, the baby now sleeps longer too. Just keep in mind, the body will supply milk as per the demand so just relax! I know women who are breastfeeding their 3 year old children and their milk has not dried up yet so the best thing you can do is not get stressed up. You already have a lot to worry about with a teething, crawling baby.
3. It takes too much time: oh yes, that is a fact. It can take 8-10 hours every day in the first few months and then 4-5 hours by the time your baby is a year old. Many women, and their families, think that breastfeeding ties them down so they opt to give forrmula milk in bottle during the day and nurse at night. I do not want to be judgemental here but i call it convenience nursing. During the day when you might have to do your household chores, go to the spa or a coffee morning, you can just hand in a bottle to the baby. At night when you are too tired to get up and make a bottle of milk, you breastfeed. I mean unless you have a genuine problem like going back to work, i would suggest you that you always nurse the baby at least for the first year. It will ensure you have a good supply of milk till the time you and your baby are ready to wean off. If you are a stay at home mom, invest your time in your baby. Trust me, you will not regret it. Your household chores can wait. All over the world, a helper can b hired even if its for just once a week. You can even ask your husband to wash the dishes at night. He might make a face but he will do it for you and the baby. Your husband and your family will all understand that your house cannot b perfect all the time and you cannot serve a 3 course meal twice a day. Try them, they will deal with it better than you think. Of course there will b days when you will feel exhausted and would want your body back, for that try finding a friend who mite b going through the same problem. If you do not know anyone, you can join an online group of bresdtfeeding mommies. Listening to their issues might help you realise that you are not alone and just might motivate you to contibue a lil longer. They will also b helpful wen you will feel neglected by your husband. Trust me, that will b quite frustrating during the first few months wen u will b struggling wid no-sleep routine, post natal depression and an ever hungry baby.
4. How do i nurse in public: well thats difficult without getting eye brows raised whether u are living in pakistan oe abroad. A woman’s breasts have become sexual objects and many ppl dont want to see them as being used for nurturing babies! Wierd, but sadly true. So, if u can, try to nurse the bb at home. If not, try finding a quiet place to nurse where not many ppl wud notice u. If u are visiting someone at their home, ask if u can sit alone in a room, it can b awkward if ppl stare at u while u are nursing. If u are out shopping, try going to malls wid nursing rooms so tht u can nurse cmfrtably without making ppl think u are being immodest. You mite not believe this but even malls in pakistan have nursing rooms. If you live outside pakistan, nursing rooms will be much easier to find and I would also suggest that you invest in a good nursing cover. Trust me, you will not regret!
5. I am gaining weight!: well dont blame breatfeeding for tht, blame whoever told u tht now u can use breastfeeding as an excuse to eat a large pizza, one pint of ice cream and four desi ghee parathas all in one day. You need 600 extra calories eceryday not 6000!
6. I have no one to cook special milk producing food for me: special food? U dont need any special food. Panjiri, zeera/saunf mixture or any other things of the sort are not pprerrquisites of having milk at all but if u have the luxury of someone going thru the pains to prepare them, enjoy them till u can. U just need to eat well and avoid foods tht are not very easily digested and that too only for first few months. U mite also like to note how ur baby reacts wen u eat certain foods. For instance some babies are allergic to nuts, some to dairy products and some to wheat. If ur baby is, u will have to avoid these foods for the time u are nursing ur baby and keep praying ur baby outgrows these allergies.
I went through all sorts of issues from engorgement to mastitis, from people raising eye brows for not supplementing with formula milk to plain exhaustion and tiredness. But in the end its all worth it. Now that K is a year old and i m trying to wean her off, i have realized how much i m going to miss it once she will b completely weaned off. Now that she is so active, the only time wen she really sits in my lap is wen she is nursing! I am so gonna miss these these special bonding sessions with her!


Oh dear!ย 

This is scary…lol. Now thinking back to the time when I used to make a post literally every day, I cant believe that I am actually nervous writing this post!

Anyway, things are good with me Alhamdulillah. I know I have been away for really really long and I should be giving an update.ย 

Well, many of my regular readers (or who used to be my regular readers) and the ones who are on my fb list already know that I have a little boss now….she has just turned 11 months (ta-da!) which means she is getting a lil more active everyday Masha Allah and is more than enough to keep me on my toes all day long. Apart from being my boss, she is a great teacher: she is teaching me to be patient and polite and kind and well, the list is way too long.

Other than that, well, just the usual! I am hoping to post every now and then from now onwards. Wish me luck ๐Ÿ™‚